I have been thinking for some time about what to write for my second journal entry. We are going through a time like we have never seen before. I had a few different ideas going around my mind, then I watched the BBC’s The Big Night In and heard the live lounge allstars sing Dave Grohl’s song “Times Like These”. I had never heard the song before but was so taken by the words and how they spoke to me.
Dave Grohl mentioned briefly he had written the song at a difficult time in his life. So I googled it and found that he had been at a crossroads when he wrote the song but he was confident that he would find the right path. He reassured himself that these trials were for the best as he would emerge stronger, which he did.
“I, I'm a new day rising,
I’m a brand new sky to hang the stars upon tonight.”
Times Like These, Foo Fighters
Every new day can be written by you
It got me thinking that every day is a new day. A brand-new, clean page to write our story on. What a privilege that it is - I get to write whatever I want. Yes, there are things that happen that we aren’t in control of and maybe our lives aren’t in the place we want or hoped they would be right now. However, it’s our choice what we bring into our new day. We choose if we bring in the learnings of the day before to help us grow and move forward. We choose to make the changes we might need to so that we can move closer to whatever it is we want or the person we want to be.
It’s a new day for us to forgive ourselves and maybe others too. To accept our failures and realise again that we are a work in progress and that in our failures we learn (a particularly hard lesson for me). Always remembering that the decisions we make are based on the what we know at that time.
It reminds me of a quote I often come back to by Mary Anne Radmacher:
“Courage doesn’t always roar, sometimes it’s that little voice at the end of the day that says, I will try again tomorrow.”
We need to have courage
It takes vulnerability to be courageous, to see the new day rising and to say I am a brand new sky. To show up and face the day with whatever emotions and feelings we might have.
One of my children works for an organisation called Global Fund for Children. They do amazing work all around the world. They have just announced the winners of their 2020 Juliette Gimon Courage Awards. What spoke to me about both of the winners was their courage. They kept going, against all odds and I am sure personal loss.
If you want to be inspired to help you dig deep to find courage and strength take a look at the amazing two winners.
So, what will your new day hold for you? There will be highs and lows, maybe even some uncertainty. Remember this, which Charlie Mackesy writes so well in his book The Boy , the mole , the fox and the horse.
“One of the greatest freedoms is how we react to things”
No circumstance can take that freedom from you. You choose. How will you choose to write your brand new day today?
Helpful things to read and listen to
I promised I would share helpful books and podcasts I have listened to.
Two books I am reading at the moment are;
Permission to Feel by Dr Marc Brackett. It's about emotional literacy, which is being able to recognise, name and understand our feelings. How it affects everything from learning, decision making and creativity, to relationships and performance.
I am only a quarter of the way through (I keep going back and re
reading pages!) and I have learnt so much about me!
The other book is; Finding Meaning the sixth stage of grief by David Kessler. This is about finding meaning beyond the most familiar stages of grief that can transform loss into a more peaceful and hopeful experience. David talks from his own experience of losing his son aged 21 and from his years of being a grief specialist. This is a book I don’t want to rush through, it is full of powerful tools to help us move forward and honour the loved ones we’ve lost.
Brene Brown Unlocking Us Is great. I am huge fan of hers, having read all her books and learnt so much. Both authors of the books I am reading were guests on her podcast. You can listen to them for free on different apps or on her website so check her out and what she does.
Russell Brand's Under the Skin I have been listening to for quite some time. His guest are from all walks of life, bringing a lot of diversity. They are thought provoking and I love Russell Brand's openness and transparency.
You can listen to past episodes for free on a multitude of apps, however, from early last year you can now only listen on Luminary, which you have to pay for. You can find Russell Brand on youtube as well and he has a website.
Much love, S
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